Canadian_gym_mom
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- May 26, 2011
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I am putting this here because I didn't want it up in any of the main threads. I am meeting with the coaches this afternoon to hear their take on the matter, but here is the basic scenario:
DD went to warm up at Gymnix. They do the whole warm up in a different gym, then go out and compete in the competition gym without touching the equipment. So dd is down in the basement warming up. With 15 minutes left the coaches come iup to the stands to get me and tell me that my dd had refused to warm up.
That she refused to do beam, refused to jump to the high bar and she was rude to them on floor.
At this point I said well tell her if she doesn't warm up you are pulling her, and I went up to the stands again. Well they had already made their decision but hadn't told her. I went down and she just found out she was pulled from the whole meet. For "SAFETY" reasons. I asked the coaches why they hadn't come to me 1/2 hour before but they had no answer.
I was so mad at them and dd that I literally carried her out of the gym kicking and screaming and crying and got in the car and drove the 6 hours home.
BUT
On the way, her version of the story was much different. She said she warmed up her floor and vault completely. She said she was pouting on floor because they changed her routine right then and pulled her big tumbling line, making it very basic. So she was upset but did everything they asked her.
She said she warmed up vault completely and even bumped and stuck her landings.
She said that on beam, she did 4 or 5 routines fully thrugh on one beam, but then it was her turn on another beam that was really slippery, she was scared and wouldn't go. But then she went back to the other beam and did everything.
Same with bars. She did all her routines on one bar, but then was asked to do it on a really chalky slippery bar (she doesn't yet wers grips) and she was too scared. But again, she went back to the first bar and did everything.
I have posted before about dd being stubborn, and I am now wondering if this was her coaches trying to prove a point to her that she has to do absolutely everything no matter what. A pretty harsh thing to do to an 8 year old at her first competition in my opinion.
I am meeting with the team of coaches this afternoon with dd, because it is either they lied about her warm up or she is lying.
We will see how the meeting goes. Leaving the gym isn't really an option, it's either stay or dd leaves gymnastics all together. I am just so upset about this, dd is still randomly crying because she still doesn't understand why she didn't get to compete.
DD went to warm up at Gymnix. They do the whole warm up in a different gym, then go out and compete in the competition gym without touching the equipment. So dd is down in the basement warming up. With 15 minutes left the coaches come iup to the stands to get me and tell me that my dd had refused to warm up.
That she refused to do beam, refused to jump to the high bar and she was rude to them on floor.
At this point I said well tell her if she doesn't warm up you are pulling her, and I went up to the stands again. Well they had already made their decision but hadn't told her. I went down and she just found out she was pulled from the whole meet. For "SAFETY" reasons. I asked the coaches why they hadn't come to me 1/2 hour before but they had no answer.
I was so mad at them and dd that I literally carried her out of the gym kicking and screaming and crying and got in the car and drove the 6 hours home.
BUT
On the way, her version of the story was much different. She said she warmed up her floor and vault completely. She said she was pouting on floor because they changed her routine right then and pulled her big tumbling line, making it very basic. So she was upset but did everything they asked her.
She said she warmed up vault completely and even bumped and stuck her landings.
She said that on beam, she did 4 or 5 routines fully thrugh on one beam, but then it was her turn on another beam that was really slippery, she was scared and wouldn't go. But then she went back to the other beam and did everything.
Same with bars. She did all her routines on one bar, but then was asked to do it on a really chalky slippery bar (she doesn't yet wers grips) and she was too scared. But again, she went back to the first bar and did everything.
I have posted before about dd being stubborn, and I am now wondering if this was her coaches trying to prove a point to her that she has to do absolutely everything no matter what. A pretty harsh thing to do to an 8 year old at her first competition in my opinion.
I am meeting with the team of coaches this afternoon with dd, because it is either they lied about her warm up or she is lying.
We will see how the meeting goes. Leaving the gym isn't really an option, it's either stay or dd leaves gymnastics all together. I am just so upset about this, dd is still randomly crying because she still doesn't understand why she didn't get to compete.