Feeling of wanting to "Move on"

[iJaide!!]

A friend posted this on Facebook and I thought of you. Not that I necessarily think you should be quitting gymnastics... Maybe just quitting that gym. But it's food for thought, nonetheless.

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WOW. LOVE this article! That is actually really motivating... I couldn't help but tear up. Empowered my brain into a positive state, a thinking state... Thank you for that!

 

[iJaide!!]

A few years ago I lost a job in my field and couldn't find another one. I felt like, "who am I if I'm not a music teacher?" just like you're feeling like "who am I if I'm not a gymnast?"

I love you story! Thanks for that!

 

[iJaide!!]

If you do decide to leave the sport, I'm sure you'll be successful in whichever sport you choose. Gymnasts are known for doing very good in other sports. I know you mentioned track and lot's of gymnasts end up in track. There are so many events you may do good in just because you are so strong, like Pole Vault for example, which takes upper body strength, agility, air awareness, which are all things gymnasts have. Another sport to consider would be diving or crew. Those sports also take advantage of all the things you've learned in gymnastics.

True that! What ability doesn't a gymnast have?!

 

[iJaide!!]

you were given life before gymnastics, and there will be life after in the event you don't continue. gymnastics, as well as other sports, are a small part of life. they are not life. getting injured, and long term recovery, can cause temporary depression. it's normal for athletes to go thru this.

finally, maybe your 'thoughts' are reflections. and they're telling you to leave where you are. not necessarily to leave gymnastics altogether. come up with another plan and another gym. gymnasts are great at planning. it will give you something to do while your body is still healing. and when you're cleared by the Docs, get back at it with a new gym, new healthy coaches and new friends. you know that gymnasts embrace one another no matter who they are or where they come from. this is partly due to having gone thru similar issues themselves before they found the right 'home'.

Beautiful Dunno.... Thank you a ton!

 

[iJaide!!]

can't give any better advice than Dunno. but big hugs as it is hard to stop doing something that seems to 'be what you are'. yes, you are a gymnast but I am sure you are also much, much more.

my DD just 'retired' from gymnastics after 6 years. Mainly tired of the hours. wantrd more timenwith her family & friends & wanted to try other things. Also, a lot of negative coaching started happening. She grew tired of the consrant criticism & snarky remarks. I know this isn't the same as she is younger & not injured. But she has always thought of herself as a gymnast because it is all that she has done. She quit 3 or 4 weeks ago. She had her first dance classes this past week. she loved them and now says she is a dancer. happy as a clam.

Make a list of things you might like to try. i suggest you let your nose & back heal. you don't want chronic back pain. take some timenoff gym to try other things. if nothing floats your boat then go back to gymnastics. but at a different gym. that one sounds toxic.

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[iJaide!!]

I can't add anymore to the posts you've received wishing you all the best in your efforts to sort through this tough time in your life. The only thing I can offer you is to ask you to go back into those "sad" feelings, as they seem to be keeping you from making a decision. When you said you were relieved or happy in the evening, and then sad the next morning, it seemed to me you may feel the best thing to do is to move on, and the sad feelings may be coming from a sense of "lost opportunities" collected from your past gymnastics experiences, and at this point in time you are struggling with never being able to reconcile those losses.

I'm very impressed with your feelings of commitment and your desire to "get it right" before doing anything drastic. Take your time, let the meds wear off, talk with your parents, and then spend some time alone reliving the past. As you do so, there will be mental images that make you collapse into a pile of tears, those thoughts that lead to such breakdowns are your real issues. Understanding your emotions and deciding what to do about them will lead you to your answer.

Good luck, and know there's a whole lot in life that's good, it's just waiting for you to find it.

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[iJaide!!]

I remember being in your position when I was about 15 and how torn I was over quitting gymnastics. Like MaryA said, most of us, no matter whether we were gymnasts or not can relate to the feeling of having our whole identity tied to some aspect of our lives -- a job, a sport, parenthood, being in school, anything. That feeling of "what am I if I'm not X?" can be frightening!

Thanks for this also!

 

[iJaide!!]

Thanks you to everyone for all the replies so far! You have no idea how much words help... Still making a decision... But I am getting closer and all of your support really helps!!

 

[iwannacoach]

Thanks you to everyone for all the replies so far! You have no idea how much words help... Still making a decision... But I am getting closer and all of your support really helps!!

Thanks for this also!

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Beautiful Dunno.... Thank you a ton!

True that! What ability doesn't a gymnast have?!

I love you story! Thanks for that!

WOW. LOVE this article! That is actually really motivating... I couldn't help but tear up. Empowered my brain into a positive state, a thinking state... Thank you for that!

You'll be fine no matter what your decision. You've been brave, honest, sincere, and deeply appreciative with all of us. You helped us all, with the way you reached out and took the time to acknowlege our efforts. In so many ways, you've shown me you are capable of being your own hero. I know I'd let you be my hero any day, 24/7. Here's to you.....to infinity and beyond!!!

 

[iJaide!!]

You'll be fine no matter what your decision. You've been brave, honest, sincere, and deeply appreciative with all of us. You helped us all, with the way you reached out and took the time to acknowlege our efforts. In so many ways, you've shown me you are capable of being your own hero. I know I'd let you be my hero any day, 24/7. Here's to you.....to infinity and beyond!!!

Thank you a ton! That is soooo nice of you!! Heart warming, hehe..

 

[iJaide!!]

I just wanted to say that I made my decision... After many tears, and a lot of thinking, I have decided to continue gymnastics!!

 

[Deleted member D3987]

i'm all for that!!!

 

[LizzieLac]

As a mother, all I ever want is for my children to be happy. Sometimes things don't go their way, or they struggle and I am ok with that. But I can't bear their sadness. I hope whatever you decide you find peace in your heart and mind, and a happiness that feeds your soul. You deserve it!