help with parents

[SuperGirlmlm]

My brother is 15. Im 13. When he was that age, he got a phone for Christmas. Now, he can do whatever he wants. Now that im that age,i dont get any of that freedom. Im aleays questioned about everything, i always have to ask and i cant hang with friends unless its a special occasion. Even when i get to hang with them, moms always watching us and listening to our conversations. Whats her problem?
Also, im talking about my team, that i see 25 hours a week, though were working really hard and never talk.

 

[GymBee97]

Well first I am assuming you are a girl and even though it shouldn't matter it does. Also from a parent point of view I would hope my daughter would come to me in a calm manner and just state what you have stated here. If you don't think something is fair you need to stay calm not accusing or put mom or dad on the defense (easier said than done when your 13).

Also I don't know as a 13 what other issues, behavior you put out there or what ever is going on that your mom and dad see So its hard to say why you may be treated differently. Do I treat my kids differently well I'm sure I do, having a phone and certain freedoms is not a right but a privilage that is earned by the way you behave, the way you earn your parents trust and so on.

My DD is 15 and honestly she doesn't have a phone because My hubby and I don't think it's necessary. There is no place she woudl be that there isn't a phone or an adult with a phone for her to use if needed. You don't need a phone to text 24/7 like I see so many teens today. When she has her license and is actually driving she will get her phone just like her brother (at 17) and if she abuses it I will take it away. I

f she is "hanging with friends" then either me or dad is there or some other parent I trust. There is no just girls/friends hanging out alone on the street corner or at the mall or what ever. She too is "questioned about everything" not because I don't trust my daughter but because I don't know some of the friends she wants to hang with and she is still just 15. contrary to her belief she doesn't know it all and is still learning how to be in the world.

Do I listen to the conversations - yup just like every other parent out there. there are some things you will say to friends you won't say to your parents but we need to know about. Why because we care about our children and love them. We want to protect them and make sure we can guide you from the dangers that are out in the world. That doesn't mean I am sneaking around corners to listen but If i am in a place I can hear it I will listen.

My son went through the same thing at that age. Every 11 - 17 yo feels as you do. Be glad your parents care enough to know what is going on in your life, have rules that protect you and love you. There are kids out there that don't have any of that and would give anything to have parents like yours.