gymmomtotwo
Proud Parent
I am in a pretty big quandry now about what to do about an overinvolved father in non gymmie DDs sport. My youngest DD is my gymmie and probably will start competing in Fall 2014. So this is about a different sport, but the same principles apply. I have made requests of DH to:
1. Not watch all of DD's practices.
2. Not to analyze her every move.
3. Give her tips on a sport he knows nothing about (This was my sport, and I continually say to him "Let the coach handle it:
4. Criticize her performances when she doesn't do well
I have given him articles about how to be a good sports parent. He compares to other faster kids to her face. The list goes on and on. It's like a tutorial on how to be a terrible sports parent.
In his favor is he works hard at the club sponsored meets and is never a poor sport at a meet. The coaches would not pick him out as a crazy sports parent at all.
She loves the sport and her friends, but is never going to be a superstar. She works hard and has fun. It's more than enough for me.
But, I am seriously worried about her mental health down the road with how much he pushes, comments and criticizes. I am tempted at times just to pull all my girls from sports if this is the way it is going to be. My gymmie is actually pretty talented and loves gymnastics, but I can see this being a problem down the road. Has anyone had this, and what did you do?
1. Not watch all of DD's practices.
2. Not to analyze her every move.
3. Give her tips on a sport he knows nothing about (This was my sport, and I continually say to him "Let the coach handle it:
4. Criticize her performances when she doesn't do well
I have given him articles about how to be a good sports parent. He compares to other faster kids to her face. The list goes on and on. It's like a tutorial on how to be a terrible sports parent.
In his favor is he works hard at the club sponsored meets and is never a poor sport at a meet. The coaches would not pick him out as a crazy sports parent at all.
She loves the sport and her friends, but is never going to be a superstar. She works hard and has fun. It's more than enough for me.
But, I am seriously worried about her mental health down the road with how much he pushes, comments and criticizes. I am tempted at times just to pull all my girls from sports if this is the way it is going to be. My gymmie is actually pretty talented and loves gymnastics, but I can see this being a problem down the road. Has anyone had this, and what did you do?