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Oh, where to begin. Let me preface this by saying that this is not one of the posts where I'm going to tell you something that happenned at DD's gym so that I can glorify my own child's amazing talent and everyone can fawn over the fact that she's so amazing. Those posts irritate me. I happily brag about her wonderfulness elsewhere. And she's not really all that wonderful. She's doing great, but she's nothing special. I've seen a hundred kids on youtube who are better. To me I'm proud of her progress and I love seeing her grow and learn skills and become a beautiful little gymnast. I'm not into needing her to be the best or better than these other kids. I just want her to be the best she can be. And we must remember that this is just Level 4/5 we are talking about here. Any number of kids can be pretty good at this very beginning level and it means nothing.
Move-ups at DD's gym start tomorrow and as I previously posted, DD was moved up to the group training Level 5. I'm gym savy enough to know that not every parent would be happy about that decision, but I truly didn't expect there to be such a strong reaction. I'm getting this info secondhand from the coach, but didn't hear it myself so it might have been infused with some of the coaches opinion. While I appreciated the coach keeping me filled in, I also sort of would rather not have known. I knew enough from my own intuition and didn't need the details. I tend to like to stick to myself and not bother with the drama and I felt drawn into it.
Basically a group of parents confronted the coaches after practice with regards to my DD and another girl being moved up. They felt like there was a step by step process for moving from group to group and that my DD and this other girl had not paid their dues by going through these steps, but had just been promoted based on their potential. Um, don't you move up levels based on your ability to do the skills, not your seniority? I really do understand how it must feel for them. I'm not denying that they have a right to feel upset or jealous. I'm just astonished that they would gang up on the coaches and actually complain about it. The one mom I expected this from. She I guess often has had meltdowns with regards to her DD and her DD wasn't moved up. The other ones I'm very surprised they complained because their children were moved up and their DD's are better than mine. Why are they so worried about her? She's no threat to them. They were upset that their DD's had to compete a full year of level 4 and mine hasn't done that yet. She will compete a full season of Level 4 because she's not old enough for anything else so what's the big deal? Don't they have anything better to worry about? I honestly don't even pay attention to what other girls are doing. I'm focused on my child and what she's doing. I don't compare her to anyone else. Sure, I sometimes admire a girl who looks really great, but I don't get upset about it.
These parents are just way too involved in their kids gymnastics. They sit in the viewing area and clap for them. They jump up and down and scream when they get a new skill. Is gymnastics really that important? Be proud of them of course, but just tell them good job when you see them. The funniest part is that there is glass and their kids can't hear them, so who are they clapping for? Themselves? For attention? To make sure that the rest of us noticed that their kids just did something wonderful?
The coach told me to ignore them and that my DD and this other girl have the most potenital of any of the kids out there. While that's nice to hear, I don't necessarily believe it to be true, nor do I care. Practice is not a competition. I hate that I know these moms are sitting there and judging my child day after day. I think that's what bothers me the most. I know they are sitting there watching her and gloating when she's not getting something and hating her when she is. I'm so glad that she's not old enough to know and feel those watchful eyes.
So as my title says, I'm really irritated by these people, yet slightly amused that they really believe that gymnastics is so important and that any of it really matters in the grand scheme of things. I'm also astonished that anyone could be childish enough to really act on their jealousy.
There are many more details to this story, but I'm just so over it that I don't even feel like typing it all out.
Move-ups at DD's gym start tomorrow and as I previously posted, DD was moved up to the group training Level 5. I'm gym savy enough to know that not every parent would be happy about that decision, but I truly didn't expect there to be such a strong reaction. I'm getting this info secondhand from the coach, but didn't hear it myself so it might have been infused with some of the coaches opinion. While I appreciated the coach keeping me filled in, I also sort of would rather not have known. I knew enough from my own intuition and didn't need the details. I tend to like to stick to myself and not bother with the drama and I felt drawn into it.
Basically a group of parents confronted the coaches after practice with regards to my DD and another girl being moved up. They felt like there was a step by step process for moving from group to group and that my DD and this other girl had not paid their dues by going through these steps, but had just been promoted based on their potential. Um, don't you move up levels based on your ability to do the skills, not your seniority? I really do understand how it must feel for them. I'm not denying that they have a right to feel upset or jealous. I'm just astonished that they would gang up on the coaches and actually complain about it. The one mom I expected this from. She I guess often has had meltdowns with regards to her DD and her DD wasn't moved up. The other ones I'm very surprised they complained because their children were moved up and their DD's are better than mine. Why are they so worried about her? She's no threat to them. They were upset that their DD's had to compete a full year of level 4 and mine hasn't done that yet. She will compete a full season of Level 4 because she's not old enough for anything else so what's the big deal? Don't they have anything better to worry about? I honestly don't even pay attention to what other girls are doing. I'm focused on my child and what she's doing. I don't compare her to anyone else. Sure, I sometimes admire a girl who looks really great, but I don't get upset about it.
These parents are just way too involved in their kids gymnastics. They sit in the viewing area and clap for them. They jump up and down and scream when they get a new skill. Is gymnastics really that important? Be proud of them of course, but just tell them good job when you see them. The funniest part is that there is glass and their kids can't hear them, so who are they clapping for? Themselves? For attention? To make sure that the rest of us noticed that their kids just did something wonderful?
The coach told me to ignore them and that my DD and this other girl have the most potenital of any of the kids out there. While that's nice to hear, I don't necessarily believe it to be true, nor do I care. Practice is not a competition. I hate that I know these moms are sitting there and judging my child day after day. I think that's what bothers me the most. I know they are sitting there watching her and gloating when she's not getting something and hating her when she is. I'm so glad that she's not old enough to know and feel those watchful eyes.
So as my title says, I'm really irritated by these people, yet slightly amused that they really believe that gymnastics is so important and that any of it really matters in the grand scheme of things. I'm also astonished that anyone could be childish enough to really act on their jealousy.
There are many more details to this story, but I'm just so over it that I don't even feel like typing it all out.