My heart hurts for her and for you....Honestly it reminds me of my son's all star baseball experience....he was one of the best players in the league but during the all star games he only got his one at bat- had to sit the bench the ENTIRE game, EVERY game and have a good attitude and cheer for his team and hit the ball when he got his ONE shot. My 12 year old son was in tears. It was awful. I hate what some adults can do to kids without a single thought. Ugh! Maybe ya'll will get transferred and have to move closer to the other gym.We actually lost two optionals to the gym 120 miles away and our oldest optional is on the fence about quitting altogether. There was also a level 5 (dd's best friend), an extremely talented level 4, and a couple of other level 4's who quit. I'm sure there were more in the lower levels that I don't know about.
I told hc in March that dd was on the fence because hc wanted a commitment for next season with about four days notice. Hc gave us a couple of extra weeks to decide and lots of extra attention for dd, which dd of course loved.
Then once the new season started, dd was the only former level 6 in the lower optional group- training with girls who competed 4 and 5 last year, and even one who competed 2. The other former level 6 girls are all training with former level 7 and 8 girls. It's like dd is still not an optional even though she competed 6 last season.
I warned dd during the decision process that this may happen, as similar groupings have happened before- even when she had scored 36 and had 1st and 2nd place AA results. I let dd continue with it and do my best to support her because she loves it, but it is pretty dysfunctional when I look at it honestly.