This is something I struggle with a lot. Although after the fact, I am glad I was at a meet, it is very difficult during the competitions. As someone else said, it can bring out a side of myself that I really don't like - for me it is fear of injury, competitiveness, and worry that my kids will be disappointed. And the recognition that I am having negative emotions and stress with a total lack of control as to the outcome, so it is useless anxiety. I've been at it for 8 years now, and it has not gotten much easier, especially since their skills become more dangerous as they progress.
It is a work in progress, but here are some things that I have tried: 1) Focus on the entire competition rather than my own kids, meaning view it as though I were watching a college meet on TV. Less personal investment and more enjoyment at the overall athletic accomplishments of all the talented gymnasts. Learned other gymnasts' strengths and talents, so I know who to watch to see a brilliant floor routine (for example), or witness who recently got their double-back. This includes girls from other gyms, since we generally end up at the same meets after all this time. 2) Socialize with other gym parents. Focus on supporting each other and catching up with the latest, instead of only what's happening on the floor. 3) Have a shot of whiskey right after bars so it takes effect in time for beam (my husband's preferred method). 4) This may be controversial, but last season I went to my GP and she gave me 10 Xanax after I showed her a video of my dd doing bars - one for each meet. I find this takes the edge off and allows me to watch without feeling like I'm going to throw up. 5) Prayer, deep breathing and calming affirmations
I still think about just staying home from meets, but think I would regret it. I envy those who love watching their kids compete! Please, if other people have suggestions about what works for them - share
