I don't know how to reply to various posts with quotations, so I've sort of lumped them together:
-I totally see the value in asking for an in-person meeting to clear the air. However, in my life, people have unanimously told me that I come off much better in writing than in person. Especially for an emotional situation like this, I would come off even more badly. Wish it weren't true but it is.
-Yesterday I had sent a text to a coach about Little Tyrant struggling with a certain thing. (I'm being purposely vague). This coach does privates with LT on a regular basis so it wasn't out of the blue. That coach thanked me, forwarded the text to another coach, who then wrote me the email. Whether it extends further back than that, I don't know because I don't know what else prompted this email.
-Definitely not a form email to the entire team. It was directed to me and only me.
-Regarding stop coaching at home: this is a tricky thing here. My very first post on cb was about how I recognized myself as an insane CGM and how I was going to take all your advice to heart. It has been a struggle for me, but I continue to struggle because I understand the importance of not giving in to the inner CGM. I take the struggle very seriously and even talk to a therapist about this often. I'm not being flippant about it at all. So, without detailing every single thing, here is what goes on at home gymnastics-wise: 1) Conditioning that coach emailed many moons ago that coach said was acceptable to do at home. 2) If LT wants to pretend she is copying the older girls' routines, I make sure she's not doing it in an unsafe area of the house, and I limit my comments/questions to "Is that what your coaches want you to do?/Is that how they want you to do it?" 3) PT exercises assigned by her PT that help with old injuries/building strength for gym. BUT THEN coaches also assigned drills to LT that they asked me to have her do...and now I am darned confused. Why assign me drills and then tell me to stay out of it??? I am really not trying to split hairs. As I said, my initial reflexive response was to just write sorry I'll stay out of it, but seriously, later...will it come back to bite me in the butt because I'm not doing/still doing the assigned drills??? I'd really like to clear the air but not be argumentative.
-Constantly reiterating that I'm not trying to cross the line: It's probably a result of reading so much here that I'm trying to make sure I'm not crossing the line. Also, knowing my struggle with being CGM. They've never said anything of the sort to me, and I guess I insert that into every conversation so that they have a chance to let me know "Yeah you're stepping over the line." But they never have, so this is really shocking to me.
And finally, this has really upset me. I've been unable to get it off my mind all day. You know how sometimes you read something inflammatory and then time blunts the initial impact, you calm down, and realize it wasn't as shocking as you initially thought? The opposite is happening with this email. Each time I reread it, I'm shocked at how much hostility is behind this email. I mean, it is basically "you're on thin ice, watch yourself." It even concludes with if there are any more questions we can sit down with the owner. I mean, damn, break out the sledgehammer....is that really necessary? I could see how this would be necessary if they had asked me on prior occasions to kindly butt out and I had refused...but no one has said anything to me so why is it necessary to bring out the firing squad? I'm really shaken up by this.