Parents Quitting due to bar skills?

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My daughter is almost 10. She competed level 4 last year and it was her second year. She is amazing at floor,beam and vault(she can do level 7-8 skills for all 3) but she can’t for the life of her figure out bars and she is about to give up. She was getting her kips on both high and low bar everytime with a connect but not great cast from october-March(scores around 8.5) then state came and she lost her high bar kip(got a 8) . Now she can’t hardly do kips at all(she misses about half of them and if she makes it she’s super bent arms and just sloppy) she is suppose to be working on level 5 but since she can’t make kips. She also can’t even begin to figure out how a clear hip works(she keeps just doing a regular old back hip circle). Honestly I don’t know what to do anymore. This is what happened her first year level 4 and why she repeated it’s like upgrade season comes and she forgets all her bar skills. Do we make her quit at this point because she will never move out of level 4 due to bars? Move to xcel? I just don’t know what to do anymore.
 
I would suggest a move to Xcel (hopefully temporary, unless she loves it). She could compete Xcel Gold while still working on her kip,and not have to put it in her routine on competition day if it isn't there. She could also do some of her higher-level skills on Beam and Floor.

It might just be the change that allows her skills to return sooner than later.

Good luck.
 
Xcel sounds like a great option if she still enjoys gymnastics. Xcel allows a greater flexibility of skills within each level so she could keep working her level 7-8 skills on other events while spending time to catch up on bars. And she could always move back to DP in the future if that's a good choice. Bars in general is usually the hardest for most gymnasts to get skills on so don't be discouraged!

I'm just a gymnast (well retired gymnast now) so take that as you will. Others here could probably give you more advice. Good luck!
 
What does your daughter want to do? Would she be happier in DP competing the lower level skills again whilst she works on her bars or would moving to Xcel be better for her so that she can compete her harder skills on floor, beam and vault? What do her coaches say? Are they suggesting that she quit?
Also bars problems are usually due to lack of strength. Is your daughter willing to put in the strength work at home that she needs (and will continue to need) to stay in DP?
 
What does your daughter want to do? Would she be happier in DP competing the lower level skills again whilst she works on her bars or would moving to Xcel be better for her so that she can compete her harder skills on floor, beam and vault? What do her coaches say? Are they suggesting that she quit?
Also bars problems are usually due to lack of strength. Is your daughter willing to put in the strength work at home that she needs (and will continue to need) to stay in DP?
She is extremely strong(she’s built like Simone bulky muscles) she’s actually the most muscular on the team and works out everyday. The coaches think she’s got issues with timing because she keeps growing so that’s why she keeps going back. They said they suggest she working level 5/6 over summer and if she’s still struggling she can do either level 4 a third year, so level 5 but scratch bars or switch to xcel. She’s honestly considering xcel because she’s stressing out a lot about bars and having to not compete an event or repeat level 4. Also it she doesn’t compete bars this year at 5 chances are she will have to repeat that level anyways. So not sure what to do at this point. Maybe I can just have her try xcel for a few weeks.
 
They said they suggest she working level 5/6 over summer and if she’s still struggling she can do either level 4 a third year, so level 5 but scratch bars or switch to xcel.

I think that the coach’s plan is a perfectly good one. Keep training 5/6 and figure out what competition level makes sense in the fall. I would stay out of it other than to reassure your daughter that it’s perfectly normal and okay for powerful gymnasts to lag on bars development and that she has plenty of options for next year that will allow her to continue progressing. I always tell my kid that, as far as I am concerned, he could skip competition entirely! As long as she is having fun and progressing, everything is good.

One thing to consider about level 5 is that she can get her mobility score to level 6 or 7 with 3 9s and a 5 on bars. A 5 is an obtainable goal. Everyone does not need to be a strong all-arounder, especially in optionals. You can be a floor and vault star while just scrapping by on bars and it’s okay.
 
I think that the coach’s plan is a perfectly good one. Keep training 5/6 and figure out what competition level makes sense in the fall. I would stay out of it other than to reassure your daughter that it’s perfectly normal and okay for powerful gymnasts to lag on bars development and that she has plenty of options for next year that will allow her to continue progressing. I always tell my kid that, as far as I am concerned, he could skip competition entirely! As long as she is having fun and progressing, everything is good.

One thing to consider about level 5 is that she can get her mobility score to level 6 or 7 with 3 9s and a 5 on bars. A 5 is an obtainable goal. Everyone does not need to be a strong all-arounder, especially in optionals. You can be a floor and vault star while just scrapping by on bars and it’s okay.
They told me regardless of her hitting the 32 to move up she won’t be allowed to do level 6 without a cast handstand and straight arm kip unfortunately(she totally could get 9.5 on beam,vault and floor currently but probably around a 6 on bars in level 5). But they did say she could do level 5 and scratch bars just not level 6. So that’s why I’m conflicted on what to do I don’t wang her to be stuck at 5 for a 2-3 years.
 
Wait and see - you are very lucky to have coaches who have an open mind and a program that can allow your child the time and options to best suit her.

It almost sounds like your child has been using strength to compensate for technique and good quality swing on bars which is why she is struggling through the growth spurts.

Remain positive and supportive, it sounds like she just needs time - so managing the mental side of the struggle is key - Resilience is one of the most important skill for high level gymnastics in my opinion.
 

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