I think the problem arises when parents are told to keep it a secret. For me it should be no different than any other meet. If scores are usually placed on the wall, or the website, they should be listed, if the 9.0 club is celebrated, it should be celebrated. Clearly when it is not talked about, parents and gymmies, are told not to tell people about it, it is because the coach knows it's a little iffy. If the coach knew it was all necessary for an individual child's success then there should be no reason to play games around it. Secrets have their way of leaking out (little kids often blab) and that is when feelings get hurt. Especially when there is no need for the secret, or maybe the meet, in the first place. Sure people shouldn't care, but get real, they do.