I am posting because this has been a rough year and we thought we had turned a corner, but now it seems it may be shortlived. A little backstory. My DD had been at a particular gym for years. It was highly competitive and she is a good gymnast, but definitely not the podium finisher the gym wants. They are pushing a lot of elite levels, so we chose to go to a new gym. It was a gym that had been established for a while, but under new ownership. We got there, everything was great. However, there was one girl there who had been there since she started gymnastics. She had always been the best gymnast in that gym. My DD comes along and now she is no longer the best gymnast in the gym. (She had been XCEL gold/platinum and my DD was level 7 and the gym first optional gymnast). As the year progressed, this gymnast and another gymnast began to really bully and isolate my daughter. I think a lot of it stemmed from jealousy. DD put up with it to finish the season, but as soon as the post season ended for her, she quit.
We joined a new gym nearly an hour away. She loves the sport and was tired of being treated like trash by these 2 girls and all pleas to the HC fell on deaf ears as the worst of the 2 had been her gymnast for years and the HC had trained her. This new gym is opening a new facility and it will be an amazing place. We have been so happy with the coaching and the feedback and the goals they set for their kids. DD is happy again for the first time in months. Well, turns out the previous gym has not had their lease renewed in the building they are in. If they don't find a place in the next 6 months, the gym will close. Now both of those other girls are looking at the new gym with its new facility and thinking of switching. I am dreading this. I have seen the text messages these girls wrote to other teammates about my daughter. They actively try to deter teammates from being friends with my daughter (for example, "Are you spending time with X of your own free will rn? Why would you do that? You know we hate her." And "You used to hate her too. Why are you her friend now?" Or, "Fine. If you like her, I still have X to talk **** about her with. I don't know why you hang out with her, but whatever. You don't need to be our friend anymore.") My DD is HAPPY now. She cheers her new teammates on. She hugs them when they get a new skill. She is still the highest level gymnast on the team, but she doesn't ACT like it. She was claps and cheers on the level 4s who are making the jump to 6. And I do not want her to be the target of these girls again if they come to the new gym.
Do I say something to the new coach to let her know what happened before? I have screenshots of the text messages back and forth from other kids because their parents were aware of what was happening. Do I share these with the new coach? Its not that I want to badmouth the other kids, I just want to protect my daughter from this bullying again. Any advice would be appreciated.
We joined a new gym nearly an hour away. She loves the sport and was tired of being treated like trash by these 2 girls and all pleas to the HC fell on deaf ears as the worst of the 2 had been her gymnast for years and the HC had trained her. This new gym is opening a new facility and it will be an amazing place. We have been so happy with the coaching and the feedback and the goals they set for their kids. DD is happy again for the first time in months. Well, turns out the previous gym has not had their lease renewed in the building they are in. If they don't find a place in the next 6 months, the gym will close. Now both of those other girls are looking at the new gym with its new facility and thinking of switching. I am dreading this. I have seen the text messages these girls wrote to other teammates about my daughter. They actively try to deter teammates from being friends with my daughter (for example, "Are you spending time with X of your own free will rn? Why would you do that? You know we hate her." And "You used to hate her too. Why are you her friend now?" Or, "Fine. If you like her, I still have X to talk **** about her with. I don't know why you hang out with her, but whatever. You don't need to be our friend anymore.") My DD is HAPPY now. She cheers her new teammates on. She hugs them when they get a new skill. She is still the highest level gymnast on the team, but she doesn't ACT like it. She was claps and cheers on the level 4s who are making the jump to 6. And I do not want her to be the target of these girls again if they come to the new gym.
Do I say something to the new coach to let her know what happened before? I have screenshots of the text messages back and forth from other kids because their parents were aware of what was happening. Do I share these with the new coach? Its not that I want to badmouth the other kids, I just want to protect my daughter from this bullying again. Any advice would be appreciated.