well, my goal for my son is to do something he enjoys, that teaches him self-discipline, hard work, dedication. That develops him into an adult that works for what he wants and works hard. That he will learn sportsmanship, physical fitness, and have fun. If, by some chance, he gets a scholarship, or something else, that that is a result of his hard work, and yes, the hard work of his coaches. His coaches love him, and have a plan for him, and want him to do well. They are huge supporters of him too, both in and out of the gym. I am sorry if your experience is not that way, but please to do attack those of us who are here with good intentions.