I would like to first say that I would go to extraordinary links not to be a crazy gym mom, so I need someone to talk me off the ledge if need be . My DD (9 year old level 6) has recently been going through fear/vestibular issues. I recently over heard two moms from our gym talking, one is the mother of a girl on my daughter's team-I did consider her to be my "friend". My "friend" was telling the other mom how the head coach told her all about my DD's fear, how she's never seen anyone come back and be successful after that type of fear, she'll be surprised if she moves up with her group to level 7, and several other list of items about my DD. If it were just two moms talking, ok whatever, that wouldn't bother me as much, but knowing the head coach is saying things about my DD to another parent....Ugh!!! Surely that's not appropriate, right? My husband and I try to be good gym parents, we don't hang out in the lobby, we don't bad mouth the coaches or other parents, we bring our daughter to practice on time and pay our bill on time , we don't get involved in drama, in fact we are the first to tell the other parents how much we support the decisions the coaches have made with our DD, so why oh why must we get sucked in LOL. Though I have always gotten the feeling that the head coach doesn't particularly like me or my DD (she is not my daughter's main coach). So my thought was to first talk with this other mom and ask her if there's something she'd like to tell me and then I'd like to speak with the head coach. How would you handle this situation? And, is it acceptable or common for a coach to talk about kids to other parents? Is it reasonable to expect the coach not to talk about our DD to others? Thanks in advance for not letting me be "that" mom