So, given all that has been discussed, do you all feel like JO meets are more “fair” in the sense that everyone is on the same page about what the goals are? It seems like with JO everyone is working their butt off (though I realize training hours can vary gym to gym) to try and get and compete the same skills give or take, and most parents and gymnasts know what to expect. We were at another meet over the weekend where only Xcel Silver teams were present, but there was no consistency with routines/skills being competed/skill level from team to team, because apparently everyone’s version of what Xcel is or should be, is different (as discussed above). Seemed like apples were competing against oranges in many cases!
Honestly, having experienced both JO and XCel, I don't think one is "more fair". Even in JO, there are gyms with really different philosophies -- homeschool, only taking tiny 7 year olds on team, teams that have less stringent requirements, gyms who measure success by college scholarships. That is why I told the OP that she and her DD are happy with her gym, their philosophy and their personal goals, you really can't worry about placements. You can go to meets that are enjoyable, but otherwise you just have to sit back and watch your kid out there doing what they love.