OK, so...
My DD is 8 and a new level 4. She started pre team at the age of 6. She competed one L3 invitational meet this spring (was technically our 'off season') for fun and loved it.
DD is essentially brand new to her gym, again. See, we switched gyms in late fall and based upon original discussions, we thought we'd be there for another year, minimum. Due to staffing issues, DD was moved to their "other gym" about three weeks ago. She's adjusting and getting used to the 'new' coaches. I get it, circumstances change, we're getting through it (but had I known she'd move so soon, we would have placed her in this location from the get-go!).
Anyway, enough background. DD left former gym with some fear issues: handstand on beam and BHS. She seems to have, at long last, conquered the handstand. Apparently, it's easier for her to do it at the end of the beam than in the middle ("If I fall, it'll be onto a mat, not the beam").
But that darned BHS. After one week at the 'new gym', they had DD doing the ROBHS with help of the springboard. After a few decent-looking ones (according to DD, I was not there), they had her do them on the floor. Apparently she turned a dozen or so, some being prettier than others. DD was over the moon.
She still has no standing BHS. She still uses a wedge. Though apparently one coach made her do one on the floor and she completed it, but none have been attempted since. Is this normal? At DD's former gym, there's no way they'd have allowed her to turn a ROBHS if she didn't have a standing BHS first, though I get that all gyms are different.
Of course, within a week, she lost it. In warm-ups (the kids do them unspotted -and uncorrected- during warm-ups), she landed on her head, twice. One of the moms was watching and when I picked up told me about it and said that it looked like DD was just too low, but 'had really fast rotation'. Understandably, DD was then afraid to try again on her own.
In practice, they're having her do them using the springboard again. DD says it's awkward and that she actually would feel more comfortable doing them on the floor, if she had a spot. Says that she doesn't feel like she always hit the springboard with the same amount of force and she gets even more nervous about landing on her head.
DD doesn't feel comfortable saying this to her coaches. She's the type of kid that does what is asked and doesn't ever question authority (even if she does the assigned task through tears).
DD asked to try a private lesson. They're of course all the rage at this gym and the kids talk about them. I agreed and set one up for next week. I figure if nothing else it'll give her some more 1:1 time to get to know/trust her new head coach and give me a chance to have some kind of dialogue with her (the first time I've ever spoken with any of them was when I made the appt). I don't want to make a habit of it, though. They're expensive, and shouldn't regular coaching be enough? Do some kids just need it?
My biggest question is, do I mention this to her coaches (that DD is uncomfortable)? Do I just trust them? Does DD just need more time? Is it the 'new gym'? DD is prone to anxiety and has a tough time expressing it.
I guess after our former experiences I am a little slow to trust - especially as I know nothing about the new coaches.
I get a bit frustrated because I know for a fact some parents in our gym do regular privates it to get their kids ahead based on discussions I've overheard. I hate the thought that in order to have DD be competitive we'd need regular private lessons. Don't get me wrong, I really don't care where DD places, I'm more just complaining that it seems unfair, if that makes sense. And it is, combined with their complaining/bragging, is why I can't stomach watching a practice there.
Thanks for any input and sorry for the long post.
My DD is 8 and a new level 4. She started pre team at the age of 6. She competed one L3 invitational meet this spring (was technically our 'off season') for fun and loved it.
DD is essentially brand new to her gym, again. See, we switched gyms in late fall and based upon original discussions, we thought we'd be there for another year, minimum. Due to staffing issues, DD was moved to their "other gym" about three weeks ago. She's adjusting and getting used to the 'new' coaches. I get it, circumstances change, we're getting through it (but had I known she'd move so soon, we would have placed her in this location from the get-go!).
Anyway, enough background. DD left former gym with some fear issues: handstand on beam and BHS. She seems to have, at long last, conquered the handstand. Apparently, it's easier for her to do it at the end of the beam than in the middle ("If I fall, it'll be onto a mat, not the beam").
But that darned BHS. After one week at the 'new gym', they had DD doing the ROBHS with help of the springboard. After a few decent-looking ones (according to DD, I was not there), they had her do them on the floor. Apparently she turned a dozen or so, some being prettier than others. DD was over the moon.
She still has no standing BHS. She still uses a wedge. Though apparently one coach made her do one on the floor and she completed it, but none have been attempted since. Is this normal? At DD's former gym, there's no way they'd have allowed her to turn a ROBHS if she didn't have a standing BHS first, though I get that all gyms are different.
Of course, within a week, she lost it. In warm-ups (the kids do them unspotted -and uncorrected- during warm-ups), she landed on her head, twice. One of the moms was watching and when I picked up told me about it and said that it looked like DD was just too low, but 'had really fast rotation'. Understandably, DD was then afraid to try again on her own.
In practice, they're having her do them using the springboard again. DD says it's awkward and that she actually would feel more comfortable doing them on the floor, if she had a spot. Says that she doesn't feel like she always hit the springboard with the same amount of force and she gets even more nervous about landing on her head.
DD doesn't feel comfortable saying this to her coaches. She's the type of kid that does what is asked and doesn't ever question authority (even if she does the assigned task through tears).
DD asked to try a private lesson. They're of course all the rage at this gym and the kids talk about them. I agreed and set one up for next week. I figure if nothing else it'll give her some more 1:1 time to get to know/trust her new head coach and give me a chance to have some kind of dialogue with her (the first time I've ever spoken with any of them was when I made the appt). I don't want to make a habit of it, though. They're expensive, and shouldn't regular coaching be enough? Do some kids just need it?
My biggest question is, do I mention this to her coaches (that DD is uncomfortable)? Do I just trust them? Does DD just need more time? Is it the 'new gym'? DD is prone to anxiety and has a tough time expressing it.
I guess after our former experiences I am a little slow to trust - especially as I know nothing about the new coaches.
I get a bit frustrated because I know for a fact some parents in our gym do regular privates it to get their kids ahead based on discussions I've overheard. I hate the thought that in order to have DD be competitive we'd need regular private lessons. Don't get me wrong, I really don't care where DD places, I'm more just complaining that it seems unfair, if that makes sense. And it is, combined with their complaining/bragging, is why I can't stomach watching a practice there.
Thanks for any input and sorry for the long post.