Women Coach Issues

[Trying_to_tumble]

I have friends. I tried talking to the coach and she screamed at me.

The only thing I can think of is contacting higher authorities. She has literally abused you emotionally and physically, and this is probably taking a huge toll on your mental and physical health. This has become downright dangerous for you now.

 

[Geoffrey Taucer]

Yes. Though this coach is also my beam coach. She's kept in check when the xcel coach is at the gym though.

If you there is a possibility of working with this coach at all, you should refuse to attend, and email the owner stating exactly why.

And file a safe sport report. What you are experiencing is abuse.

 

[superNova08]

We cannot guarantee safety, but the thing about a bully is, they usually crumble when faced with more than one person resisting. Your friend has to judge the likelihood of getting in trouble (which is BONKERS but here we are)
If this coach saw your letter and STILL acts like this, man IDK what to even say.

My friend is super supportive and asked me about saying no before. She offered to help me so I assume the offer still stands.

 

[superNova08]

The only thing I can think of is contacting higher authorities. She has literally abused you emotionally and physically, and this is probably taking a huge toll on your mental and physical health. This has become downright dangerous for you now.

What is your definition of higher authorities? I'm not going to like the police.

 

[superNova08]

If you there is a possibility of working with this coach at all, you should refuse to attend, and email the owner stating exactly why.

And file a safe sport report. What you are experiencing is abuse.

Maybe it makes sense to go and if she is the coach leave? If she won't be my coach then I'm safe.
How do I file a safe sport report? I've heard of it but don't know anything about it.

 

[Trying_to_tumble]

My friend is super supportive and asked me about saying no before. She offered to help me so I assume the offer still stands.

Couldn’t you also tell your real coach about it and get her to talk with that…. Well, that disgusting human?

 

[Geoffrey Taucer]

Safe sport literally exists for the purposes of protecting athletes like you from abusive coaches like the one you're describing.

 

[superNova08]

Couldn’t you also tell your real coach about it and get her to talk with that…. Well, that disgusting human?

I emailed the xcel coach. she showed this one the email.

 

[superNova08]

Safe sport literally exists for the purposes of protecting athletes like you from abusive coaches like the one you're describing.

would it come up if I google safe sport gymnastics?

 

[Trying_to_tumble]

What is your definition of higher authorities? I'm not going to like the police.

Other directors at the gym, if you have them? You mentioned she’s the manager, who’s above the manager in the gym?

 

[superNova08]

Other directors at the gym, if you have them? You mentioned she’s the manager, who’s above the manager in the gym?

The owner who I've never met.

 

[TheXcelMom]

would it come up if I google safe sport gymnastics?

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If someone who's more educated than I am could advise whether or not she can experience retaliation or get kicked out for making this report, please say so. Or is it like "now they literally CAN'T let her go until it's resolved?"

This young lady wants to attend states (sorry there are other posts) and she deserves that. Getting kicked out now will interrupt that dream. It may be her last season anyway.

 

[TheXcelMom]

The owner who I've never met.

If you had an all hands on deck meeting with coaches about your situation, the owners are aware you exist.

 

[superNova08]

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Thanks! I'll talk to my mom about it first.

 

[Trying_to_tumble]

Thanks! I'll talk to my mom about it first.

That seems like the best option. I hope everything turns out ok!

 

[TheXcelMom]

Thanks! I'll talk to my mom about it first.

Wise.

 

[Geoffrey Taucer]

Best of luck, and please keep us posted

 

[superNova08]

If you had an all hands on deck meeting with coaches about your situation, the owners are aware you exist.

I've never met the owner.

 

[superNova08]

Best of luck, and please keep us posted

Definitely. Will post back here when I have an update - probably later tonight.

 

[superNova08]

So my mom spoke to the coach. Apparently she was "unaware of my mental status and emotional situation" otherwise she would have been more mindful. Apparently she is not going to approach me again. I'm going to just give it another try for now I guess with the support of teammates.