Vikspoolie
Proud Parent
First of all Ive enjoyed lurking and reading on here for a few months but I fear now I need help ! And its not even the kids its me!
Let me explain, my daughter started gym in the UK in rec classes age 4. She was a slow burn and stayed in rec until her 6th birthday when she moved to pre team (4 piece) suddenly she's flying ! after being over looked for 2 years she is suddenly really coming on BUT she is always going to be one of those kids who has to work hard for it.
Contrast, my son, watched my daughter for a year then casually said he thought he might give it a go. Age 8 he did 3 rec lessons and was moved to pre team and is now about to compete. He doesn't try, he resists conditioning etc and sits down on the nearest mat when its not his go, but he is so quick at picking things up he is more than holding his own.
They both had their first in house comp. My boy got a bronze which i was delighted with, fine. My daughter got a 4th and for some reason I am gutted. I cant get perspective on it at all. I feel like the kids who got higher than her dont put the work in she does but got lucky or "pulled it out the bag" on the day which doesnt feel fair. but then I think thats probably what other parents think about my son ! Its really tough, I dont like to be competative but I'm disclovering I clearly am.
Anyway, its less about me needing advice, more that I need another gym mum to say "there there you little mentalist" and give me some lovely tales of when similar things have happened!
I'm off to read the thread on "how not to be a pushy parent" :-(
Let me explain, my daughter started gym in the UK in rec classes age 4. She was a slow burn and stayed in rec until her 6th birthday when she moved to pre team (4 piece) suddenly she's flying ! after being over looked for 2 years she is suddenly really coming on BUT she is always going to be one of those kids who has to work hard for it.
Contrast, my son, watched my daughter for a year then casually said he thought he might give it a go. Age 8 he did 3 rec lessons and was moved to pre team and is now about to compete. He doesn't try, he resists conditioning etc and sits down on the nearest mat when its not his go, but he is so quick at picking things up he is more than holding his own.
They both had their first in house comp. My boy got a bronze which i was delighted with, fine. My daughter got a 4th and for some reason I am gutted. I cant get perspective on it at all. I feel like the kids who got higher than her dont put the work in she does but got lucky or "pulled it out the bag" on the day which doesnt feel fair. but then I think thats probably what other parents think about my son ! Its really tough, I dont like to be competative but I'm disclovering I clearly am.
Anyway, its less about me needing advice, more that I need another gym mum to say "there there you little mentalist" and give me some lovely tales of when similar things have happened!
I'm off to read the thread on "how not to be a pushy parent" :-(