notthatmom
Proud Parent
Last night, before she went to bed, DD (who is 7, almost 8) told me "I'm kind of sad today" ....I asked her why, and she said "I don't think I'm going to make it to state"
They have one qualifying meet left, and although she's close, she hasn't qualified yet. I told her that I'm proud of her whether she makes it to state or not, and that she's an awesome gymnast and has accomplished a LOT in the last year. I told her whether or not she makes it she's going to get her grips soon and start training on the high bar (bars are her favorite event and she's stoked to get her grips), she didn't seem thrilled with my "alternative fact of excitement". I think there is a lot of pressure at our gym in particular to make state (the majority of our girls do every year) so I can see why she thinks not making it would be the end of the world.
Do any of you have tips on what else I can do to keep my 7 year old from feeling like she's a failure? This is a tough sport and the kids have to grow up fast in a sense, I feel like my kid in particular was born a grown-up, I have to remind her to be a kid on the daily and not worry so much....
Also, I've mentioned on here before that if she does make state I'd be thrilled and I'd do something really fun for her to celebrate, but I have NOT said anything about that to her yet, I don't want her to feel pressure from me what so ever....the only discussion I've had with her was when we talked about what her qualifying score needs to be....that's it. So I think a lot of the pressure comes from her coaches and teammates.
Ahhh I just want to hug her all day long so she's not so torn up about this.
Any advice?
They have one qualifying meet left, and although she's close, she hasn't qualified yet. I told her that I'm proud of her whether she makes it to state or not, and that she's an awesome gymnast and has accomplished a LOT in the last year. I told her whether or not she makes it she's going to get her grips soon and start training on the high bar (bars are her favorite event and she's stoked to get her grips), she didn't seem thrilled with my "alternative fact of excitement". I think there is a lot of pressure at our gym in particular to make state (the majority of our girls do every year) so I can see why she thinks not making it would be the end of the world.
Do any of you have tips on what else I can do to keep my 7 year old from feeling like she's a failure? This is a tough sport and the kids have to grow up fast in a sense, I feel like my kid in particular was born a grown-up, I have to remind her to be a kid on the daily and not worry so much....
Also, I've mentioned on here before that if she does make state I'd be thrilled and I'd do something really fun for her to celebrate, but I have NOT said anything about that to her yet, I don't want her to feel pressure from me what so ever....the only discussion I've had with her was when we talked about what her qualifying score needs to be....that's it. So I think a lot of the pressure comes from her coaches and teammates.
Ahhh I just want to hug her all day long so she's not so torn up about this.
Any advice?