All of that is true and it's good to know how important your support is to your DD, but it's also fair to question the value of your "purchase". I'm assuming TOPs isn't free, and even if there isn't a separate cost to it, there is value in the time spent working on it (in a futile attempt to learn skills at the last minute it seems). What is the cost of that opportunity? What was she spending time on to prep for TOPs versus what she could have been working on for next season? Was it worth it? See - there is a cost, even if it's not $$$.
I think being a conscientious consumer is a good thing. Yes, your daughter is the gymnast, but you are also a paying customer and it is okay to assess the value of your purchase and be disappointed in it if you're not getting the value you'd like. I think more than anything, the experience has left you frustrated and taken a bit of the shine off the apple in terms of your faith in the coach/program based on the decisions made in this situation. It's frustrating at times for sure. As the adult/parent in this triangulated relationship, we do sometimes have to take a step back and evaluate how things are going. I think that it's healthy to check in with yourself that way actually. Most of the time (we hope) the balance falls in favor of the gym/coach/program. Nothing is ever perfect and some times are rougher than others, but having a consciousness about the things that give you pause is good. Not that you should act/react/over-react to them all, but just having that mental note to watch/listen/think more about a particular something is good. Generally things that are a blip in the radar one week, right themselves naturally by the next week or so and all is well. But if they don't or things that make you go hmmmmm start to pile up, that's how we know when to act, ask a question, etc. Maybe there's a perfectly explainable reason or answer to the questions in your OP (maybe she wasn't ready for those skills) and maybe there's not (maybe they didn't plan far enough ahead and now have to scramble). But it is okay to ask and it's only natural to be a bit emotional about it since gymnastics is such a huge investment of time/$$$/blood-
swear-tears.
All that being said, I hope the TOPs testing is a good experience, even if she doesn't have all the skills perfected. Just to go out and do the best she can is a bit of a win and a good experience. Good luck
