*WARNING*- I am going to be petty in this post. Be patient with my venting and arrogance, because it leads to a question that I would really appreciate some honest feedback on.
When my daughter switched from our first gym (which my mom picked when she decided to give my daughter a month of gymnastics classes as a Christmas gift) to our current gym, something happened. My wife was sitting watching practice and a mother looked at my wife and said, "I don't think your daughter has the skills to be on this team." This really ticked me off, but I kept my mouth shut because we were new to the gym and I didn't want to make waves. I'm also the type that believes in success being the best way to get even and I believed then (and still believe now) that my daughter would pass this woman's daughter based on a combination of excellent work ethic and natural talent.
Fast forward almost two years. The daughter of the mother who made the comment was a Level 4 teammate of my daughter's this year. Both had good seasons and I found a way to tolerate the mother in question (I really like her husband). I got a little (a LOT) of satisfaction seeing my daughter get all of her old 5/new 4 skills before the other girl. In fact, the other girl is still struggling with her kip. The super petty part of me wanted to go up to the mother and say, "I don't think your daughter has the skills to be on the new Level 4 team.", but the decent person in me knows that is definitely the wrong answer. The point is that I still have some hard feelings.
This mother has just become the President of our booster club. Last year, my wife and I really worked hard for the booster club, taking on additional jobs for both meets the booster club ran. We did extra fundraising and really tried to go the extra mile to "be on the team". One of the things I'm big on is honesty within any team I'm involved with. I think it's an integral part of working together with people. So here's my question:
Should I speak with this mom to clear the air so that I can feel like I can work well with her? Should I let it go and back off of my involvement in the gym? How would YOU deal with the issue?
When my daughter switched from our first gym (which my mom picked when she decided to give my daughter a month of gymnastics classes as a Christmas gift) to our current gym, something happened. My wife was sitting watching practice and a mother looked at my wife and said, "I don't think your daughter has the skills to be on this team." This really ticked me off, but I kept my mouth shut because we were new to the gym and I didn't want to make waves. I'm also the type that believes in success being the best way to get even and I believed then (and still believe now) that my daughter would pass this woman's daughter based on a combination of excellent work ethic and natural talent.
Fast forward almost two years. The daughter of the mother who made the comment was a Level 4 teammate of my daughter's this year. Both had good seasons and I found a way to tolerate the mother in question (I really like her husband). I got a little (a LOT) of satisfaction seeing my daughter get all of her old 5/new 4 skills before the other girl. In fact, the other girl is still struggling with her kip. The super petty part of me wanted to go up to the mother and say, "I don't think your daughter has the skills to be on the new Level 4 team.", but the decent person in me knows that is definitely the wrong answer. The point is that I still have some hard feelings.
This mother has just become the President of our booster club. Last year, my wife and I really worked hard for the booster club, taking on additional jobs for both meets the booster club ran. We did extra fundraising and really tried to go the extra mile to "be on the team". One of the things I'm big on is honesty within any team I'm involved with. I think it's an integral part of working together with people. So here's my question:
Should I speak with this mom to clear the air so that I can feel like I can work well with her? Should I let it go and back off of my involvement in the gym? How would YOU deal with the issue?