Sort of OT, but I think, when it comes to feeding your kids, this is one of those things, like nursing and co-sleeping and whatever, that people have really strong opinions on, but you just never know what you will do till you're in the situation. I was a big believer in the "kids should eat what the family eats... they won't starve themselves... if they're hungry enough they'll eat" philosophy... BEFORE I had kids. When I tried to implement this... and keep in mind that I have fraternal twins, with the same foods introduced at the same time... the perfect nature vs nurture study... it did NOT work. Oh, it worked great for my gymmie, so if she had been my only child, I would still believe the way I used to. But for her sister, every meal was a battle. Even just trying to get her to take one bite of what I had prepared was close to impossible. She wanted bland food... fruit, bagels with cream cheese, pasta with butter, white meat chicken (no sauce), fish sticks (no ketchup), mac and cheese. Every meal time became a battle, till it got to the point where you could literally feel the entire family starting to tense up as the dinner hour drew near. So... we re-considered our policy. We stocked the low shelves of the refrigerator with foods that she would eat that she could prepare for herself, even at 3 years old. I would like to say that I see signs of her growing out of her "white food" phase (9 years later) but I don't really. My gymmie stopped ordering off the children's menu years ago because the choices were so boring. But somehow I see my other daughter ordering off the children's menu when she's 30. BUT she's healthy... a healthy weight, plenty of energy, spends 10 hours a week in dance classes, hardly ever takes a sick day, a straight A student. Still stubborn as a mule, especially when it comes to food (and clothing)! I don't know. Maybe there was/is some sort of sensory issue there that we should have had evaluated back when she was three. But we all do what we feel is best for our kids and our families, whether it's allowing our young child to spend every waking moment outside of school in the gym (even if we have friends who imply that this may be some sort of child abuse/neglect) or whether it's letting our child exist on a white food diet.