Well....since you opened the door....
1. Can a gymnast go to public school full time and compete/train elite?
2. How does one evaluate a gym and/or coach's ability to train an elite gymnast? How does a parent differentiate between loving their kid's coach yet seeing them as unable to help the gymnast meet her goals? How do you even talk to a coach about such things without insulting them?
3. How common is it for a family to have to move to support an elite's training? On TV, "they" make it look like everyone has to do this. Is this true? I don't think I live anywhere near an elite gym! LOL
4. If a gym isn't interested in helping a gymnast do TOPS, is that indicative of attitude/ability about training an elite gymnast?
1. no, not if they are going to take ALL of the classes required that are a part of the regular curriculum. the athletes simply need to be exempted from P.E., study halls, etc; as they have nothing to do with "core" curriculm courses. this becomes more important in high school. you see, the NCAA and it's clearinghouse does not recognize any other courses except "core" curriculum courses. what "core" classes are, and those requirements, can be found at the NCAA Clearinghouse sight. it is these courses which will find the athletes clearing the clearinghouse for their acceptance to college to participate on an athletic team. finally, there are not enough hours in the day to go to school fulltime and sufficiently train to become reasonably successful at the elite level. as i said, just attempting the level is difficult enough. so then the question becomes as to why even attempt the endeavor if 'everyone' doesn't put things in to place that don't obstruct the athlete.
2. as i said, most gyms want nothing to do with the elite level. this makes it very difficult to make decisions as to what you should do with your child. but most gyms i know welcome the conversation and most can identify if a certain child has the biology. with that said, most that i know will be honest enough to let your child go when they are ready. with most gyms, it's not just about the money. i can give you a first hand account that my wife and i experienced years ago. we were just married and beginning a family. and along came this kid. i 'knew' after 2 years of training that this kid would become an elite gymnast. we loved her. BUT, we already had 1 child under 3 and my wife was pregnant with our 2nd. we knew that we couldn't do what we needed to do with this child. so, we set up a meeting with the parents. initially, they thought they or their child had done something wrong to get called in for a 'meeting'. my wife told them that wasn't the case, but we needed to talk with them about their daughter's gymnastics future. by this time, we had already had a couple of national team members, both boys and girls, and i was coaching both. but my wife and i wanted a family also. so, the conversation did not go as i thought it would. we explained where their daughter was at. and where we thought she was going to go. and that we wanted her to go to a gym a few miles from ours. it wasn't any further for them. we thought it was best because we saw no end in sight for their daughter and we could not commit to what we knew was going to happen as we wanted to continue on our family path and would revisit the elite level at a future date. that WE were sorry, and if we had known at the moment that they had placed their daughter with us what abilities she had, then of course we would have sent her on to the nearby gym. that this other gym could accomplish the task. and that WE trusted this gym and their coaching staff. well...it backfired on us. they were angry. their interpretation was that we no longer wanted to coach their child. that there must've been some other underlying reason. and if for this other underlying reason, why we would give up on her so easily. can you all see here how difficult these discussions can be? anyway, we brought the conversation back to where it needed to be. we assured them that there was no underlying reason. that we felt it best for their daughter, and before any more time was lost, that she began training in the elite program right away and that my wife and i had done a stellar job up to that point and this included teaching her the compulsories of that time which she performed beautifully. it just happened faster than even we could have imagined. it was time. well, they wouldn't have any of it. that my wife and i had started this process and it was our moral and ethical responsibility to finish it. that there was no way they could discuss this with their daughter. that they believed she wouldn't leave no matter what. and that if we thought that she could do elite, and that their daughter wanted to do it, then they would support us even if their daughter was not #1. we said okay, we'll find a way to do it, it was 'new' to us since we hadn't done the level whilst raising children, we'll do the best we can do, and that if at any time they felt it was time to go that we would make that call to our colleague. in fact, we had already discussed this with that coach previously. he of course thought we were nuts...but he was single and had no children to raise. suffice, this girl went on to be a 2 time national team member, found herself in several international competitions, and went on to UCLA on a full athletic scholarship and had a successful and storied collegiate career. a few years ago is when she brought up the fact that her parents had shared with her what conversation took place when she was just 12. when she was in for a visit she shared what her parents had told her. and she now had 2 children of her own. her comment was that she knew that my wife and i loved her. but HOW MUCH hit her when she knew what we were willing to do for her future. she told us she loved us and didn't think she respected anyone as much as she did us. nice ending. so, conversations that take place between coaches and parents in this regard are very important. if the coaches are committed to the future of an athlete, whether they are to coach them or not, then these conversations must take place. and they MUST be HONEST conversations. and clubs must be willing to part with an athlete no matter what if for the future of that kid. it's always better to say that you had a part in the upbringing of an athlete and their success.
3. it is very common. it's because no one really wants to do elite. or they don't know how. or both. i'm telling you from experience that doing the elite level is a daunting task. it consumes you. this is why some parents have no choice but to pick up and go. hundreds of kids are evaluated all the time in this elite endeavor. only reputable coaches/programs will tell them to stay where they are at if they don't see 'it'. kids that don't have 'it' will be a burden to a program with other kids that do have 'it'. and coaches that i know that have coached elites won't take them because it is in the kids best interest to stay home. there is nothing wrong with striving to be the best level 10 and competing in college. this too is a very small group nowadays yet this is where the majority end up if they can withstand the rigors and demands of gymnastics over the course of time.
4. no. several of us have produced elite athletes without TOPS. and as i have posted before, shannon miller is the ONLY notable athlete to have tried TOPS. she did it for a year to augment her training and so that steve nunno could test the wares of what he thought he saw. if you know how to coach you don't need TOPS. if you don't know how to coach to that level, but you are committed to the task, the TOPS program and it's education are invaluable. it also places the kids in an environment that tests/stresses them. it is a good measurement for revealing if the kid has what it takes.