My 5 year old dd missed a lot of classes these last 3 weeks due to vacation and illness. We decided to try an open gym class. They separate the kids by ability level so my daughter was put in a group of older girls. They out right bullied her. At first, they wouldn't even allow her to get on the bar to practice. They where nasty to her. I couldn't hear what they where saying but body language says it all. After 20 minutes, my daughter came out crying. I approached the coach and asked her flat out if it was possible for her to use the bar and not be bullied. She did make them take turns after that. I am sure she saw it happen and did nothing to stop it until it got to that point. It happened again when they had to get soft floor beams out. My daughter carried her own beam out and placed it on the floor. Over comes one of the big kids to "share" and then tells my daughter that she will have to go find another one because this one is hers now. It was a lot more nasty in person. This exchange I could hear clearly. (Open wall) The open gym coach clearly could care less.
My daughter said they teased her about her size and told her that she couldn't be five and that she had to be 3.( Not her fault she is the size of a 3 year old)
At the end of class, they tried to cut in line on floor stuff but my dd had had enough and flat out wouldn't let them. One girl hit her so she tapped her back. The older girl told on her but my dd didn't tell the coach what happened. I think the coach must have seen and told them not to hit.
This was an experience we will never repeat and I will look for open gym options at other gyms if the need arises. This coach for open gym has an older daughter on team and doesn't coach regularly anymore. I don't think the coaches at our gym enjoy coaching open gym and I fell like they think it is a chore and they don't come in with a positive attititude.
Do you think it is like this at all open gyms and do you think it is fair for me to look into other open gym options at other gyms in the area? They said she isn't allowed to go to the open gym for her age level because of her ability.
We really like her classes and her current coach but just felt that she needed some extra practice from being out for almost 3 weeks.
I wanted to add that there were four bullies. One backed off after the first bar incident when she saw that her mom was sitting next to me.
My daughter said they teased her about her size and told her that she couldn't be five and that she had to be 3.( Not her fault she is the size of a 3 year old)
At the end of class, they tried to cut in line on floor stuff but my dd had had enough and flat out wouldn't let them. One girl hit her so she tapped her back. The older girl told on her but my dd didn't tell the coach what happened. I think the coach must have seen and told them not to hit.
This was an experience we will never repeat and I will look for open gym options at other gyms if the need arises. This coach for open gym has an older daughter on team and doesn't coach regularly anymore. I don't think the coaches at our gym enjoy coaching open gym and I fell like they think it is a chore and they don't come in with a positive attititude.
Do you think it is like this at all open gyms and do you think it is fair for me to look into other open gym options at other gyms in the area? They said she isn't allowed to go to the open gym for her age level because of her ability.
We really like her classes and her current coach but just felt that she needed some extra practice from being out for almost 3 weeks.
I wanted to add that there were four bullies. One backed off after the first bar incident when she saw that her mom was sitting next to me.
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