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Thanks so much! That is exactly what we are doing, and surprisingly she is much more open to it, and the tears are less and less...I agree that he is vindictive so if he agrees to let her skip the level 5 competition, as he should since she won 6 last year, he probably will say she isn't ready for 7 when the season starts and she will lose a whole year... We are out of there soon I hope! We will be going to 2 other gyms team workouts this weekend!Go. Go now. This coach does not have a successful optionals program. Your DD loves the sport, works hard, and is obviously talented. She deserves a program that will take her as far as she wants to go. She deserves a coach that has her best interests at heart. Even if you somehow convince the coach to let her move-up, he seems like the vindictive type.
You said that all the other optional level girls have left (BIG RED FLAG). Where have they gone, and how happy are they? You could always phone a mom that took her DD elsewhere, and ask her about the experience.
You said that you would not move DD against her wishes. Would you at least consider having her (even if she doesn't want to) work out at another gym for a few days? Once she is in another gym, she may realize it isn't so bad after all.