So daughter finished states last week and now I am basically waiting to see what she wants to do about continuing with gymnastics because she is undecided. I am expecting a drama free week for her to go back to gym this week start working on new stuff without the added pressure of competing. On the other hand I am thinking she could just say I am done why do I still need to go to practice. Nothing seems to be that simple!
So she goes to practice all week complains about her heels hurting but does not refuse to go. So I am thinking just give her a couple of weeks to decide and she can make her decision before summer. Then Friday I drop her off and when I come to get her she tells me I want to stay for open gym so I am like okay. After I pick her up she breaks down crying saying her coach hates her (this was the coach that she really likes). So I am baffled if she had such a bad time at practice why did she want to stay for open gym.
I am not sure at this point if I should just say take a week or 2 off. Anyway I decide to talk to the owner/head coach. She decided she needs to talk to daughter herself about what she wants then will get back to me. Basically she feels she is in alot of pain in her heels and now her wrist again, she wants her to come to the gym and just condition for 2 weeks and then she needs to decide. She feels that she still likes gymnastics but she does not like the pain she is experiencing. She said she is very unsure of what she wants to do a this point. She wants me to basically stay out of it and let daughter decide what she wants because she feels strongly that daughter needs to make the decision of what she wants and she wants her decide for the right reasons. She told me do not discuss it with my daughter let her talk to her in 2 weeks and find out what she wants. I am grateful how she is handling this but as a parent it is hard to stay out of this. But deep down I do feel like she has her best interest at heart. I think she only wants her to continue if daughter wants to be there she seemed very understanding of the situation, I quess she can see how both daughter and I are struggling with this decision. There have been so many girls leave the gym that I feel she has alot of experience with these situtations. I am sure if daughter said to her I do not want to do this anymore she would not have encouraged her to take 2 weeks to decide. I was surprised that she mentioned she was annoyed by daughters coach letting her compete last week at states after she hurt her foot, she was not at the gym when it happened. I think part of the problem is daughters coach was pushing her and daughter was still hurting but afraid to say anything plus daughter had her heart set on competing states.
So anyway daughter just conditioned at practice yesterday and seems to be in better spirits today. She is mad at me for going to the headcoach but I am glad I did. I have been trying to avoid talking to her about it since that is what headcoach wants but it is hard. I never realized how difficult it could be making a decision whether to continue or not escpecailly when daughter refuses to come out and say she is done. Hopefully the situation will be resoved in 2 weeks since head coach told her she needs to come to a decision then.
So she goes to practice all week complains about her heels hurting but does not refuse to go. So I am thinking just give her a couple of weeks to decide and she can make her decision before summer. Then Friday I drop her off and when I come to get her she tells me I want to stay for open gym so I am like okay. After I pick her up she breaks down crying saying her coach hates her (this was the coach that she really likes). So I am baffled if she had such a bad time at practice why did she want to stay for open gym.
I am not sure at this point if I should just say take a week or 2 off. Anyway I decide to talk to the owner/head coach. She decided she needs to talk to daughter herself about what she wants then will get back to me. Basically she feels she is in alot of pain in her heels and now her wrist again, she wants her to come to the gym and just condition for 2 weeks and then she needs to decide. She feels that she still likes gymnastics but she does not like the pain she is experiencing. She said she is very unsure of what she wants to do a this point. She wants me to basically stay out of it and let daughter decide what she wants because she feels strongly that daughter needs to make the decision of what she wants and she wants her decide for the right reasons. She told me do not discuss it with my daughter let her talk to her in 2 weeks and find out what she wants. I am grateful how she is handling this but as a parent it is hard to stay out of this. But deep down I do feel like she has her best interest at heart. I think she only wants her to continue if daughter wants to be there she seemed very understanding of the situation, I quess she can see how both daughter and I are struggling with this decision. There have been so many girls leave the gym that I feel she has alot of experience with these situtations. I am sure if daughter said to her I do not want to do this anymore she would not have encouraged her to take 2 weeks to decide. I was surprised that she mentioned she was annoyed by daughters coach letting her compete last week at states after she hurt her foot, she was not at the gym when it happened. I think part of the problem is daughters coach was pushing her and daughter was still hurting but afraid to say anything plus daughter had her heart set on competing states.
So anyway daughter just conditioned at practice yesterday and seems to be in better spirits today. She is mad at me for going to the headcoach but I am glad I did. I have been trying to avoid talking to her about it since that is what headcoach wants but it is hard. I never realized how difficult it could be making a decision whether to continue or not escpecailly when daughter refuses to come out and say she is done. Hopefully the situation will be resoved in 2 weeks since head coach told her she needs to come to a decision then.
