MerriWeather
Proud Parent
I posted a while back about my DD's block over doing her ROBH and I am starting a new thread because it seems to be part of a bigger issue. She is ten years old and a Level 3.
We are having a problem with her putting in "just enough" effort in things. It's always been a bit of a problem for DH and I, but as we go through this gymnastics thing, we see it there and it's really getting bad. To the point where she's probably not going to level up because she just won't put the effort in - she actually told me today she'd rather be held back and I gather it's because she thinks then she will be at the top of the team. Instead of working hard and improving!
I watched her at practice Friday and it was maddening. As soon as she thought no one was looking, she was skipping out on things she was supposed to be doing! She spent more time rearranging the mats than actually doing the skills. I wanted to dive over the balcony and throttle her!
She tends to lose confidence and give up if it doesn't come to her easily or quickly (all things, not just gymnastics). I have never been that way, so I don't know how to teach someone how to work hard. We have invested so much in gymnastics it's downright depressing to see her do just enough to get by (even though she says she loves it!) and pretty much waste our time and money.
I have asked her REPEATEDLY does she want to do gymnastics and she says absolutely! She loves it! And she does gymnastics all over the place and talks about it, reads about it, draws pictures about it, etc when we're not at the gym.
The most painful part was this morning as I was emailing her coaches for the 100th time and said her lack of effort is frustrating my husband and I - she wrote back that her lack of effort is definitely a problem... more so than the skills she doesn't yet have. So it'snot even that the coach looks at her and thinks she's slow/behind/whatever - the coach can see she's not trying, too.
She is like this with EVERYTHING. She wants to do things, but she doesn't want to try to make it happen. It's so far removed from who I am by nature I don't even know how to deal with it!
We have a one-year financial commitment to our gym (through May) and then only have something like 2 weeks in June to re-commit for the next year, so if I were to pull her for a bit, I'd still have to pay for it (is that even normal to have to commit financially to an e tire year - even if you completely quit?). I have thought of having her try the other gym just outside of town (she went there years ago for rec and we loved the gym, switched when we moved), but I'd have to pay for that on top of paying for our current gym.
Ideas?
We are having a problem with her putting in "just enough" effort in things. It's always been a bit of a problem for DH and I, but as we go through this gymnastics thing, we see it there and it's really getting bad. To the point where she's probably not going to level up because she just won't put the effort in - she actually told me today she'd rather be held back and I gather it's because she thinks then she will be at the top of the team. Instead of working hard and improving!
I watched her at practice Friday and it was maddening. As soon as she thought no one was looking, she was skipping out on things she was supposed to be doing! She spent more time rearranging the mats than actually doing the skills. I wanted to dive over the balcony and throttle her!
She tends to lose confidence and give up if it doesn't come to her easily or quickly (all things, not just gymnastics). I have never been that way, so I don't know how to teach someone how to work hard. We have invested so much in gymnastics it's downright depressing to see her do just enough to get by (even though she says she loves it!) and pretty much waste our time and money.
I have asked her REPEATEDLY does she want to do gymnastics and she says absolutely! She loves it! And she does gymnastics all over the place and talks about it, reads about it, draws pictures about it, etc when we're not at the gym.
The most painful part was this morning as I was emailing her coaches for the 100th time and said her lack of effort is frustrating my husband and I - she wrote back that her lack of effort is definitely a problem... more so than the skills she doesn't yet have. So it'snot even that the coach looks at her and thinks she's slow/behind/whatever - the coach can see she's not trying, too.
She is like this with EVERYTHING. She wants to do things, but she doesn't want to try to make it happen. It's so far removed from who I am by nature I don't even know how to deal with it!
We have a one-year financial commitment to our gym (through May) and then only have something like 2 weeks in June to re-commit for the next year, so if I were to pull her for a bit, I'd still have to pay for it (is that even normal to have to commit financially to an e tire year - even if you completely quit?). I have thought of having her try the other gym just outside of town (she went there years ago for rec and we loved the gym, switched when we moved), but I'd have to pay for that on top of paying for our current gym.
Ideas?