Proud dad, this could make all of us crazy if we looked at it hard enough. Really there is no guarantee that the "best" girls will qualify to regionals, or to the state super teams. One mis step, fall, bad day, etc can knock the "strongest" to a place where they just miss the state team. Or miss regionals. And then there is the question of "what exactly defines the best" You could have a kid score 9.7 plus doing a highly upgraded routine that is outscored by a kid who gets a 9.725 doing bare bones basics. Which is the better gymnast? Which one deserves it more? Well, high score wins, right? It may not always be "fair" but that is how it goes.
I think your daughter is in level 6, North Carolina, right? It is going to be tough competition to make regionals- lots of strong girls, not many spots. That said, our coaches have said over and over and over that while they love success (and yep, they love it) and have a strong and competitive program, it doesn't matter until about level nine. Of course it "matters" in the sense that the child WANTS to make it, works hard etc etc etc, but in their opinions lower level optionals is the time to make mistakes, just miss a spot, and learn. Frankly, I would say that these mistakes, mis steps, falls, etc have made my DD hungrier- she wants it more and is willing to work harder for it. So I guess what I am saying is to take a deep breath and try to relax. We will likely NEVER understand how and why these things are decided, but they are what they are. We can't do anything about it. Have a wonderful time watching your daughter- I am hoping she has a great day and gets one of those spots- I bet she does!
And if she doesn't, I bet that she handles it with far more maturity and grace than we could anticipate. One thing I have learned about kids in this sport- most of them have immense maturity regardless of age, and are able to put it all in perspective and move on. (confession, my daughter is SO much better at this than I am! I agonize if she falls or whatever- meanwhile she keeps it all in perspective- she just loves the sport win lose or in between. ADORES it. She typically just says "I'll get it next time!) Hang in there and keep us posted on how this weekend goes.
Im rooting for her!