So, I need help from experienced parents. My DD continues to have a fairly significant Beam BWO block. I stopped at the end of practice and watched her spend more time sitting and staring into the abyss that doing her drills. I was irate!
First, I am not upset that she isn't getting the skill; but upset at her lack of drive to work on said skill. I understand there is a fear issue but she will find any and every excuse not to practice at home and is not trying nearly as hard as she could at the gym.
How do I, as a parent, stay calm when I feel she isn't making an effort to work and overcome her fear? One can not get comfortable if one avoids the beam and Arial skills.
Like most parents here, I drive an hour round trip 4 days a week to the gym. In addition to driving, it cuts away all family time and takes a majority of our funds to keep her at that gym. I did not mind when I knew she was giving it 100% effort.
DD in general is a very hard worker and does give the other 3 events her best. So it is very obvious by her lack of interest. I have told her maybe xcel or T & T would be a better fit if she isn't willing to work hard on beam. One can not continue to progress through the levels when lacking in an event. She only wants the JO course, period.
DD also has inattentive/mixed ADHD. Is this just how girls are with a fear? AdHd personalities avoid things they do not want to do. How do I figure out if it is a block/fear or avoidance? I have tried not even speaking gym etc and she just stopped practicing on her home beam. Her coaches are frustrated to the point of giving her homework assignments.
I expect DD to work and try and I am so angry I want to pull her and make her do gym near home or make her repeat 4 if she isn't going to try.
First, I am not upset that she isn't getting the skill; but upset at her lack of drive to work on said skill. I understand there is a fear issue but she will find any and every excuse not to practice at home and is not trying nearly as hard as she could at the gym.
How do I, as a parent, stay calm when I feel she isn't making an effort to work and overcome her fear? One can not get comfortable if one avoids the beam and Arial skills.
Like most parents here, I drive an hour round trip 4 days a week to the gym. In addition to driving, it cuts away all family time and takes a majority of our funds to keep her at that gym. I did not mind when I knew she was giving it 100% effort.
DD in general is a very hard worker and does give the other 3 events her best. So it is very obvious by her lack of interest. I have told her maybe xcel or T & T would be a better fit if she isn't willing to work hard on beam. One can not continue to progress through the levels when lacking in an event. She only wants the JO course, period.
DD also has inattentive/mixed ADHD. Is this just how girls are with a fear? AdHd personalities avoid things they do not want to do. How do I figure out if it is a block/fear or avoidance? I have tried not even speaking gym etc and she just stopped practicing on her home beam. Her coaches are frustrated to the point of giving her homework assignments.
I expect DD to work and try and I am so angry I want to pull her and make her do gym near home or make her repeat 4 if she isn't going to try.